Dave Ramsey shares some blunt advice for if you’ve made it financially and your friends call you greedy

Recently, a single mother sent in a question to the Dave Ramsey show to get some advice. She said she’d followed Ramsey’s tips and was doing well financially, becoming debt-free with an emergency fund and a house that will soon be paid off. However, she’s not getting positive feedback from those in her life.

Instead, the people she’s with at church and family gatherings complain that everything is expensive, make snide comments about haves vs. have-nots, and express their belief that those who own their home and have investments are rich, greedy, and benefit at the expense of others. She feels hurt by this type of talk and wants to know what Ramsey thinks she should do. 

Ramsey had some very blunt advice for this caller, but it is advice she would do well to follow. 

Here’s what to do if your friends criticize your efforts at success

Ramsey did not mince words when he replied to the woman’s question. “You need some new friends,” Ramsey said. “Shake the dust off your sandals and keep moving.”

Ramsey described the negative commentators as “energy vampires, sucking the blood out of your soul,” and warned that this type of negativity is contagious because people often become like those who they spend the most time with.

He suggested limiting time spent with those people based on the amount of energy she has to try to overcome their negativity and likened her situation to one where a former drug addict had to leave his cocaine-using friends behind to build a better life.

Should you ditch your friends if they aren’t on the same financial page?

While moving on and finding new friends can be difficult, Ramsey is right that continuing to spend a lot of time with people who have this type of negative mindset could be a problem. If her friends are constantly putting down her achievements, it can be harder to feel good about the money moves she is making — or to continue to make the sacrifices she needs to get that house paid off and stay on the path to building wealth. 

If instead, she finds new supportive friends who are on a similar financial journey, her chances of long-term success go up. Not only will encouragement and support help her stay the course, but she may just find that she’s motivated to succeed even more if her friends are on the same journey. They can also share financial tips to advance their shared goals.

Of course, Dave’s advice doesn’t suggest that it’s impossible to be friends with people who have less money or different attitudes about money. The issue here isn’t that her friends don’t have as much, but that they are making her feel bad for something she should be proud of.

Whether your friends do this about money, weight loss, or any other goals that you have, they are not the right people to have around as you should be with people who celebrate your successes rather than tear you down.