My recently divorced dad told me I will inherit $5M. Do I need to keep aggressively saving for retirement?

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My recently divorced dad told me I will inherit $5M. Do I need to keep aggressively saving for retirement?

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Only about 20% of Americans are expecting to receive any inheritance at all. This represents a decline compared to decades prior. However, among those who stand to inherit, there exists a bias labeled the “inheritance illusion”, where people overestimate the likelihood or amount of inheritance, which can lead to under-saving. Still, Cerulli Associates (2024) estimates that $84 trillion will transfer between generations by 2045, with $16 trillion going to charities rather than heirs.

What should you do if you are expecting a large inheritance? Is it wise or financially prudent to factor an inheritance into your financial plans? How much inheritance is typical? These used to be very common questions that are becoming increasingly rare these days. But if you find yourself with the potential of inheriting a vast sum of money, it can be a stressful and confusing time.

If it feels like nobody is getting an inheritance these days, you’re not wrong. According to repeated studies, the Boomer and Gen X generations are much less likely to leave money behind for family than any previous generation. They are more willing to spend all their money on anything (as long as it’s for themselves) before they die. That is in stark contrast to the Millennial and Gen Y cohorts who have seen the impact of rampant inequality and greed and are much more willing to share as much as they can with others before they pass on.

But if you happen to be one of the lucky ones with money in your future, what should you do? This was the question of one particular user in the r/inheritance subreddit community.

Key points:

The Question

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The trap of the promised inheritance: the Boomer and Gen X strategy of emotional manipulation by using inheritance to control behavior.

The post author gives little detail about their family or financial background other than the fact they have been saving money for retirement aggressively ever since they began working. This includes a diversified financial portfolio and maximized contributions.

Their father, at age 65, had recently divorced his wife and confided to them that the post author would receive an inheritance of around $5 million.

The post author took this as granted and was wondering if they still need to keep saving money so aggressively since they will have already exceeded the lifetime savings of most other people if they do end up getting this inheritance.

The Community Response

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A photo of an empty wallet.

The overwhelming majority of responses to this question, no matter what their advice was, is one of incredulity and doubt. According to responders, it is common for men this age to divorce and get remarried soon after. They doubted the promised inheritance would be anything close to $5 million if the author received anything at all.

Many commenters confessed that they had been told the same thing by parents or other family, only to be disappointed when the person remarried, had new children, or ended up changing their mind.

With that said, most responders said that it is not a good idea to change your financial plans based on a potential inheritance. You have control over your savings and earnings and retirement, but you have no control over your inheritance. Until the money is in your hands, it’s safer not to assume it’s yours. Changing your financial plans to account for an inheritance only to not get any means you have messed up your savings, often without any way to fix it. It is definitely best to treat an inheritance as though it doesn’t exist, and if you do end up getting something, it’s a happy bonus.

In the end, there are far too many unknown variables and things outside the control of the author to expect to receive any amount of the promised $5. Making life choices based on unknowns is an easy way to end up in financial ruin.

Remember, inheritance is not a legal obligation, and even a will can be changed on a whim. If the money is in a trust, however, it might be safer from changes and you can probably expect at least some money.

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Aaron Webber is a veteran of the marketing, advertising, and publishing worlds. With over 15 years as a professional writer and editor, he has led branding and marketing initiatives for hundreds of companies ranging from local Chicago restaurants to international microchip manufacturers and banks. Aaron has launched new brands, managed corporate rebranding campaigns, and managed teams of writers in the education and branding agency industries. His experience extends to radio spots, mailers, websites, keynote presentations, TED talks, financial prospecti, launch decks, social media, and much more.

He is now a full-time freelance writer, editor, and branding consultant. Most of his work is spent ghost-writing for corporate executives, long-form articles, and advising smaller agencies on client projects.

Aaron’s work has been featured on INC.com and The Huffington Post. He has written for Fortune 100 companies and world-class brands. His extensive experience in C-suite ghostwriting has launched the personal branding initiatives of dozens of executives. He is a published fiction writer with publishing credits in science fiction, horror, and historical fiction.

Aaron graduated from Brigham Young University with a bachelor’s degree in macroeconomics, and is the owner and primary contributor of The Lost Explorers Club on www.lostexplorersclub.com. He spends his free time teaching breathwork and hosting healing ceremonies in his home.

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